Murphy's Law

"Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong."

This seems to be a theme in wedding planning... or just in general in the past couple weeks. For example:

- About a month and a half ago our pastor and pre-marital counselor told us he wouldn't be able to do either the wedding or the pre-marital sessions. He had already missed our first two meetings without ever communicating with us where he was or why he wasn't there. We didn't hear from him for over a month and a half and then he finally emailed us to say he wasn't able to do it. That sadly left us with no time for counseling as we don't live in the same country so we were barely able to get the number of sessions in before the wedding. We thankfully found someone to do the ceremony for us, but we are going to have to do post-marital counseling. That was a huge disappointment.

- Erik's car window was smashed and my purse, camera, work keys and Erik's Ipod were stolen from his car when we were swimming in the river two weeks ago. Yes, they were hidden (except for his Ipod). Yes, this did occur in Washington and my wallet was stolen therefore I was stuck in Washington. Being stuck in Washington without ID is not conducive to getting a marriage license or working or... well pretty much everything I needed to be doing. This ended relatively well as:
1. my nieces hadn't put my ID back into my wallet when we were crossing the border so it was in the console of my car (too bad I didn't realize this until 4 days post-theft).
2. my computer was in the back of the car and they didn't see it
3. I had left the car keys at Erik's house.

- My sisters (also my bridesmaids) didn't pick dresses until two weeks ago. From day one I told them they were in charge of getting dresses they liked (in yellow... or green) and we were still at three weeks before the wedding day without dresses. They ended up narrowing it down to two dresses two weeks ago and then we sat and awaited their arrival. One was a yellow dress being borrowed and one was a green dress being bought. The yellow was given then thumbs down quite quickly because of it's strange mid-calf length.

- We got the green dresses in on Saturday, but they weren't put on until Sunday. It didn't fit! It was over two inches too small! My mother wasn't sure if she could fix it so we were thinking of Plan B and C and D and E. We were just going to do black dresses then because they would be the easiest to find on short notice, but my mother managed to fix the dress. So, bridesmaid dresses are completed.

- Erik and I went to Kelowna yesterday to pick up my wedding dress. We had a 10am appointment and so we arrived at the store and Erik went off to read his book. The lady said she would be just a minute and so I wandered around. I was perusing the dresses and I found the one I had wanted... I had seen it on the internet and loved it and it wasn't there when I went to the store (I had one day to choose my dress or it would not have come in on time). It was there, and it was beautiful AND it was $100 cheaper than my dress!! Shucks eh. Anyway, the lady in the store looked kind of panicked and she was bustling from the front desk to the back room. After about 20 minutes she came to me and said, "We don't have your dress". I was like "Ok, do you know where it is?" She said, "Yup, it is at the seamstresses house. She hasn't started your alterations yet." I asked if she could be done by 4pm because I knew there really weren't many alterations to be done. There were more phone calls and, yup they could be done by 4pm (I had to be home by 8pm). So I got directions to the seamstresses house, Erik and I enjoyed our day together in Kelowna and then we picked up my dress and went home.

Those are the major going wrongs. There are many many many many more minor ones. Many. Things not being completed on time. Erik buying the wrong supplies (bless his heart). He tries to be so helpful and I really appreciate it, but he happens to need VERY SPECIFIC instructions. Painfully specific. That is something I'll have to work on giving the first time around.

Oh, and I have no idea what our flowers are going to be like. I couldn't order flowers because we didn't have dresses so we are going to Pike's market on Saturday to pick out flowers and Erik's friend is going to make them into beautiful bouquets for us... :)

I am still loving wedding planning (most of it). For everything that has gone wrong, there has been a remedy or at least an alternative. Everything will get done. It may not be what we planned, but it will be wonderful. I'll have a husband by the end of it and that is really all I want.