Wednesday, June 29, 2011

life with sawyer

Warning: This is going to be way too long.

It has been almost three weeks since Sawyer stayed with us. I still miss having her -- she was delightful! It was especially enjoyable because she had just learned to walk. It was fun to watch her waddle around learning how to catch her balance. Her confidence grew with each passing day and she became increasingly daring.
who doesn't love a baby in a jean jacket?
Sawyer spent hours and hours in front of our front screen door waving at everyone and everything that went by. When she waves her hand goes in little circles and she will get both hands going when she is really excited. She would call out to people passing by when they didn't notice her waving, but it didn't seem to help.  If we happened to be outside when a cat or a dog went by Sawy would toddle after it yelling. Sawyer loves animals... from a distance. Her confidence often wavered the closer she got to her prey (if she managed to get anywhere near them).
One of Sawyer's other favourite past-times was opening and closing doors. Our front door needs quite a bit of force to actually close so Sawyer could open it an almost close it over and over and over again. And that's exactly what she did. Open. Close. Screech. Repeat. She also enjoyed playing in the cupboards -- especially the tupperware cupboard.

Little Bean also became interested in putting rocks into jars, putting blocks into baskets, and putting her cheerios through whatever she could find. This came in handy when I was teaching her to clean up. We would make cleaning up into a game and she loved playing with me :)

Sawyer also loves being in the sling. We both loved it and we used it all the time. We used it when we went on walks, when Sawy was cranky and clingy, and anytime we were out of the house.
Sawyer also loved being outside -- she always has. She is always curious and loves pointing at thins and going "aAah" as though asking a question. She passes balls back and forth and does this adorable squeal and dance every time she pushes the ball in my direction.
I endearingly call her "Destructo-bean" or "Bean-zilla" because she loves knocking things over. Every time anything out of blocks she will come push it over and then step on it (and then cry because the blocks hurt her feet). The knocking down of towers often gets the best giggles out of her. She hands me blocks from the basket one at a time and then waits till I have a little tower before waltzing over and destroying it. What a punk.

She is such a little ham and loves making me laugh. If I laugh at something she does, she will do it over and over again. This is one of my favourite things.
Sawyer is so good at listening. She will stop what she is doing when I say "no thank you" and she quickly learned her boundaries in my home. She knew not to touch my computer, phone, or camera though everything else was pretty much fair game.
I also started putting her in a booster seat/high chair thingy every time she ate a meal. A meal-time routine actually helped more than I thought it would. I borrowed my sisters booster seat thing, but I think I am going to get one for myself. Sawy knew to walk to her chair if she wanted to eat. She would sign "all done" when she was finished eating and then she'd wait until I washed her hands and face before going and playing again. Speaking of eating... Sawyer eats a banana in less bites than I do. She pushes so much into her mouth that I am surprised she doesn't gag herself. She has to hold the piece she bit off with her little hand because her cheeks and lips can't close around it. I probably shouldn't let her because it is a bit of a choking hazard, but she has yet to choke and it is so dang cute!
The one thing that surprised me the most when she was over was how content she was playing on her own. I think it has something to do with her walking, but she would play alone for hours. At first I was a little bit sad that she didn't need me more, but really, who doesn't love an independent baby?? She come over for snuggles periodically throughout the day and that was more than enough for me.

Since she started walking she has changed the amount of enthusiasm she puts into "soooooo big". She now sticks out her belly and leans waaaay back when we are playing. It is absolutely adorable and makes me laugh out loud every single time. The first time I was a little nervous as she wavered a bit... while leaning backwards with only my hardwood floor to soften her fall... but she managed to stay upright. I also taught her to fly when she was here. I would say, "Sawyer can you fly??" and she would flap her arms up and down -- pretty cute.

She also started doing this... downward dog. How cute is that?
Sawybean, I loved having you. Even Uncle Erik enjoyed having you around. He would go into your room every morning for a snuggle before starting the day. You bring us both so much joy and you are welcome any time.  Love you, baby girl.
**After looking at this post again I see that most of the pictures were taken from behind. I must have spent a lot of time running after Sawyer. I guess that's what happens when the little one learns to walk. 

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

i just love my parents.

Monday, June 27, 2011

Music Monday

Hello again. It is now June 27 and it is time for another Music Monday!

Today I would like to speak a little bit about dissonance. If there is one trait to the music that I really like it is dissonance.
–noun 
1. inharmonious or harsh sound; discord; cacophony.
2. Music . a. a simultaneous combination of tones conventionally accepted as being in a state of unrest and needing completion.

b. an unresolved, discordant chord or interval.
3. disagreement or incongruity.

My favorite band, Radiohead, are masters of dissonance which makes much of their music unplayable on radio. You just can't bust a comfortable move to Radiohead. Likewise with another of my favorites, Sufjan Stevens. This song will make you feel uncomfortable. Listen for the harp to come in, it makes everything feel better and is stunningly beautiful to hear. This is why I love dissonance so much because the ugliness and uncomfortable nature of it highlights the beauty of a consonant chord. This contrast is a wonderful thing.
This is Sufjan Steven's cover of You Are the Blood 
 



I also picked this particular song because I am hoping to be working so hard that the blood is literally flowing through my fingers, either keeping them warm on cold days or because the netting has rubbed the skin off (which happens to us on big years)

I would also like to comment on the video that comes with this music. I really enjoy this video, it makes me want to watch all these silent horror films. Some of the shots and scenes send chills down my spine and they were filmed 70+ years ago. Amazing.

A tip of my invisible hat to whoever put that video together.

Here's to another beautiful day on Bristol Bay.

EDO

Friday, June 24, 2011

Canada Culture Shock

** I just found this post. I wrote it... months ago, but never posted it for some reason. I didn't have any culture shock when I came home, but I did have an awareness of the many differences between Canada and Ghana. **

Being back in Canada is strange. In some ways it feels like I have never left - I have fallen right back into my routine. In other ways I see how vastly different Canada is from Ghana. Things start seeming normal when you are in another country for so long and you forget that things are different at home.

For example:
  • I don't need to throw my toilet paper in the garbage - I now get to flush it. 
  • People obey traffic lights. 
  • Motorcyclists wear helmets. 
  • Babies aren't tied to their mama's backs on motorcycles.
  • Motorcycles have only 1 or 2 people on them (instead of 1-7... true story).
  • People seem unfriendly. No one says hello when you walk down the street. 
  • Everyone is in a hurry.
  • There are no children running down the street.
  • There are no children outside. 
  • People go to work without their children. 
  • Nobody recognizes me. 
  • I haven't been proposed to lately. 
  • No one randomly touches my skin. 
  • I haven't terrified any children due to the colour of my skin. 
  • Everyone tries to look the same -- they wear the same colours, shop at the same stores, and have similar styles.
  • You can buy everything at one store. 
  • You can't buy things through your car window while you're driving around.
  • There's no honking!
  • When there happens to be honking it is because someone is angry -- not just friendly communication.
  • I sleep with blankets on because it is so cold at night.
  • The power is reliable!
  • It stays on at night so I go to bed later. 
  • Drivers use their turn signals.
  • Only two cars drive side by side on two lane roads.
  • There is a limit to the number of people you can have in a vehicle.
  • I haven't seen any goats tied to the roof of a bus.
  • People say please and thank you.
  • People don't squeeze (and I do mean squeeze) between each other -- there is such a hing as personal space.
  • Babies are strapped in car seats -- waste of space in a taxi!
  • No goats or chickes around.
  • I can go to dinner with a friend without paying for them.
  • There is pavement everywhere!
  • I haven't tripped over an open sewer system yet today.
  • You can buy everything you need in one store. 
  • Taxi prices are based on time spent in the taxi -- not up for negotiation based on the colour of your skin.
  • I can't barter for my food.
  • I can drink from my tap.
  • I can have warm showers -- I want to have warm showers.
  • I feel clean.
  • Cheese is refrigerated.
  • People actually have heaters in their homes.
  • I haven't seen any three-year-olds with their younger siblings tied to their backs. 
  • I don't have to worry about getting Malaria.
  • Everything is open on Sunday.
  • Nurses care for their patients. 
  • I haven't seen any patients hit or laughed at.
  • There is no dancing in the streets.
  • There is no dancing, period.
  • Men and women hold hands. 
  • Everyone has electricity and a TV.
  • Hardly anyone lives where they work.
  • Children go to daycare and have babysitters.
  • Music in stores is played quietly so you can hardly hear it. 
  • Nobody follows me down the street (and if they did I'd be worried!)
  • No one (aside from Erik) has proclaimed their love for me recently.
  • Fruits and vegetables are eaten cold.
  • Almost all children attend school.
  • there is a lack of colourful clothing.
  • There isn't as much smog -- I can actually see the blue sky.
  • You can get exact change at stores. 
  • I don't have to pay to use public washrooms. 
  • I can find public washrooms.
  • I don't have to squat and suspend myself above a tiny hole to void. 
  • International calls are so expensive.
  • There is high speed internet everywhere.
  • People hardly walk anywhere.
  • Most vehicles have air conditioning.
  • I haven't held a stranger's baby yet today.
  • I don't have to wash my clothes by hand.
  • I am not sticky 24 hours a day.
  • People here have more than enough of everything
  • People whine and complain more.
  • People are less forward.
  • All stores are in buildings.
  • There is no music in the streets.
  • No one has asked me for my water.
  • No one has asked me for anything -- money, my purse, my sunglasses, my empty water bottle.
  • There is no dirt under my fingernails.
  • There's no need to keep the bucket in the bathroom filled with water because water doesn't shut off and I can always flush my toilet. 
  • There are glass panes on the windows.
  • People are on time for things.
  • I pay the same price as everyone else.
  • I haven't made a baby cry because of the colour of my skin.
  • Nobody wears/carries things on their heads. 
  • People in the service industry actually aim to please.
  • You have to tip after paying for a meal at a restaurant (and tax isn't included in the menu prices!)
  • Meat is refrigerated here.
  • I haven't been able to find any dog meat to purchase on the street.
  • Cows are fat.
  • Nobody does 'real' manual labour -- even the labourers have the help of some pretty incredible tools.
  • Hardly any women deliver babies at home. 
  • There are cars for sale everywhere!
  • I do not have an entourage of children.
  • Nobody waves at me.
  • Nobody stops and stares at me.
  • I don't feel the need to drink 4-6L of water a day, though it's probably still a good idea.
  • I have more than enough clothing.
  • I don't have to hang my clothes in my bedroom to dry.
  • My feet are clan.
  • Women cover up when they breastfeed.
  • Babies wear diapers.
  • There is an actual garbage disposal system.
  • There are garbage cans everywhere that are emptied regularly. 
  • Coke comes in a can.
  • Children don't go anywhere unattended and a 3 year old sister does not count as an attendant.
  • Everyone wears shoes or sandals.
  • It is so green!
  • I don't have to carry my water bottle with me wherever I go.
  • Pedestrians use cross walks and have the right of way.
  • You can control the temperature of the shower -- you want to control the temperature.
  • My toes are not swollen sausages.
  • Walls in rooms are actually washed and appear clean. 
The list could obviously go on and on and on.  Reading over the list now, two months later, was kind of fun for me. It reminded me of things about Ghana that I had completely forgotten about.

      {this moment}

      {this moment} - A Friday Ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember. 

      Wishing you a relaxing weekend!

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      Thursday, June 23, 2011

      rain

      Know what I woke up to this morning?

      Rain.

      I heard it even before my alarm.

      And when my alarm went off it was still raining.

      Pouring actually.

      I poked my head out the window to assess the amount of rain and decided it was enough to water my garden for me.

      Thank you, rain.

      It was also enough to water my sister's garden for me.

      Thanks again.

      So I reset my alarm for an hour later and snuggled in under my duvet to enjoy the sound of the rain hitting my roof. I savored the delicious smell of earthy wetness. And I drifted off into semi-consciousness -- the best!

      Now I am reading my book (for pleasure rather than studying!), drinking my 'feel relaxed' loose leaf tea, and feeling very relaxed.

      It's my last day of hospital orientation today. We get to start late because it's only four hours instead of eight.  My first shift on the ward (with a buddy nurse) is Monday.

      Mmmm. I'm loving the rain.

      Wednesday, June 22, 2011

      It's Time

      Dearest Erik,
      Please come home.
      I miss you.
      A lot.
      I hope you are warm.
      And happy.
      And a little bit sleep deprived d/t the incredible amount of fish you are catching. 
      But mostly warm and happy. 
      Ok. And well rested.
      I love you.
      With all my heart.
       Ashley Joy 
      ps. I miss your sexy beard and high pony. 

      Tuesday, June 21, 2011

      Chicken and Coconut Thai Curry Soup

      Yummy! Yumm. Eeeeee. Yummy! I made this delicious soup a couple weeks ago - before Erik left - and I forgot to share the recipe!! I copied it off the internet somewhere, but I can't seem to find the website anymore. I made some minor adjustments to the recipe, but I can no longer remember what they were... I'm sure the original is delicious as well. I was a little intimidated at the thought of attempting this soup, but I soon realized just how simple it is. And it is so tasty.
      Chicken and Coconut Thai Curry Soup

      2 teaspoons of vegetable oil
      1 tablespoon of Thai red curry paste
      4 cups of chicken stock
      1 14 oz can of coconut milk
      1 piece of ginger, peeled, about 2 inches
      2 pieces of boneless, skinless chicken meat of your choice: breasts or thighs
      2 teaspoon of brown sugar
      2 tablespoons of fresh lime juice
      1 tablespoon of fish sauce
      Chopped vegetables such as carrots, broccoli and celery
      2 tablespoons of chopped fresh cilantro

      Heat oil in a large pot over medium-high heat.
      Add the curry paste and cook quickly for about 30 seconds without burning it.
      Add the stock, coconut milk and ginger and bring it to a boil.
      Add the chicken, cover and reduce heat to medium-low.
      Cook until chicken is cooked through, about 15 minutes.
      Add the sugar, lime juice,  fish sauce and vegetables. Turn heat up and cook until vegetables are just cooked but still crunchy, about 5 minutes.
      Top each soup bowl with cilantro and serve with rice.

      Monday, June 20, 2011

      Music Monday

      Hello everyone. By the time you read this I will have been in Alaska for 2 days already. Only 20 left but who's counting.

      The selection for this week comes from a local Vancouver band. I have been very impressed with this group through everything that I've heard so far. I was able to see them live in Vancouver in March of this year and it was the best free show I've ever been to. Actually it was one of the better shows I've been to; their presence on stage was very intriguing and they sounded just as good live.

      I must admit that I chose this particular song because of the music video more than anything else. It is heavy on the floating images which is similar to what I'm up here doing. Unlike this video I am not floating aimlessly in the ocean and I am not sinking because of how much extra weight I'm bringing on board (although it would be nice to have that issue due to extra fish we're bringing on board).

      This is Brasstronaut with Old World Lies



      If you like this song check out more from them.

      Keep the fish floppin' and the beats hoppin'

      SockeyEO

      Sunday, June 19, 2011

      My Littlest Outside Baby

      It was Hailey's first birthday yesterday. Happy Birthday, baby girl! You have the brightest, most beautiful eyes and an absolutely delightful personality.
      She started out small at 6lb 3oz and she is still itty bitty -- in the 3rd percentile. At something like 17lb she is definitely my littlest baby. My littlest outside baby at least. My BIL now calls her the "outside baby" so she won't be confused with the "inside baby".

      You see, Hailey is going to be a big sister in December. And we are going to have another niece or nephew to love and adore. I can't wait!

      Bachelor of Science in Nursing

      Yup, I said it. And I have one, a bachelor of science in nursing. I finally graduated last week after six short years of university. I almost can't believe it. It hasn't really sunk in yet that I won't be returning to school in the fall, but I'm sure it will eventually. I don't think I am done with school just yet, but I will be taking a bit of time to actually start my career.
      Speaking of career... I was thankfully hired on a surgical floor at the hospital here in town. I was hired as a casual and I have been warned that I won't get many shifts, but work is work. At least I got in! The floor I am hired on has patients recovering from general surgeries (bowel resections, amputations, vascular surgeries, etc).
      How do I feel about it? Excited, nervous, anxious, apprehensive... many things. I am excited to start because I know I would feel this way no matter what and the sooner I get in and get comfortable the better. The only thing that will make me feel better/less stressed will be experience... and I have to face my fears to get that.
      So tomorrow I start. It's just hospital orientation so I won't actually be working, but I get paid to sit there for three and a half days! I'm not complaining! After that I get 10-12 shifts with a nurse (I think)... and then I'm on my own. On my own. I no longer get to chart "RN aware" because am the RN. It will be a huge adjustment, but it will be a good one. Everybody's nervous for their first day of work, right?

      Friday, June 17, 2011

      {this moment}

      {this moment} - A Friday Ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember. 

      Wishing you a fabulous weekend!


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      Wednesday, June 15, 2011

      Auntie of the Year

      Erik and I loved having Sawyer for the week. Who doesn't love having a little friend around 24 hours a day? We had an accident-free week until three hours before Bean's parents came to pick her up. I was pretty impressed considering she was just one week into walking... I thought we got through the week just fine when Sawy fell forehead first into my tile floor. Wooops! Her upper body started going faster than her little legs could keep up with so she lost her balance... poor little Bean.
      She screamed for a bit, struggled when I put ice on her forehead, snuggled for a long while and then was off toddling around again. She looked a little bit like a unicorn for a while, but she's fine.
      I saw Sawy yesterday and her injury is almost gone -- babies thankfully heal so quickly. Man, I have missed having her around. She is the very best. 

      Monday, June 13, 2011

      Music Monday

      Down with the Bruins! At least Thornton, that guy has earned my ire. If you feel the same way you earn 10 points for a Sedin of your choosing.

      I do believe it is time for another music Monday. I've got a fantastic song for you today from a very talented band from, where else, England! I think you'll enjoy it; this is Tunng with "Bullets"




      I hope you enjoy.

      Tomorrow is my last day of work for 1 month and 4 days. It also marks the 3rd month this year that Ashley and I have been apart.

      Good luck to Vancouver and fans; I hope that you will finally meet Stanley on Wednesday.

      Until next time...

      EDO

      Friday, June 10, 2011

      {this moment}

      {this moment} - A Friday Ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember. 

      Wishing you a lovely weekend!

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      Thursday, June 09, 2011

      To commemorate

      In honour of the four years I spent doing my undergrad I have decided to reveal a project I took part in creating in my first year of nursing. It's far enough in the past that I find it more humorous than embarrassing -- though it is undeniably embarrassing. 

      Wednesday, June 08, 2011

      Fleet Foxes


      So.Dang.Good.

      'Mom' for a week.

      I have been playing 'mom' for the week. Sawyer's parents went to California so she has been staying with us. We've had her since Thursday and we have her until Friday! Her grandparents graciously took her for Saturday and Sunday as it would otherwise be a little too much for my dear husband. I love having her around constantly and I love her new-found independence with walking! It's lovely to have her roam around and get what she wants rather than crying and pointing while I try decipher exactly what she needs.

      I love having her for multiple days too. It's much much easier because we have gotten into a rhythm. It's given Sawy a chance to get to know me -- to really get to know me. She knows what she can expect from me and she is learning what she can and can't get into. I've also had the opportunity to get to know her better as well. I know how she has been sleeping and what her limits for the day are. I can make her skip a nap because I deal with the consequences... not her mama.  And she has been a peach! Truly. We make a good team.
      I have also loved having the sling! Sawyer always gets a little bit cranky around supper and I had been putting up with it while I worked around the kitchen. Then I remembered the sling!! My SIL uses it for everything, but I had only been using it out of the house when we go on walks or when we shop. Two days ago I had an epiphany and I slung her up when I was making dinner and she was more than content to snuggle close and watch me work. Duh! It has been a lifesaver! Or at least a sanity saver.

      Tuesday, June 07, 2011

      Sunday Afternoon Kayaking.

      We went kayaking on Sunday afternoon. 
       The weather was absolutely perfect -- there was a slight breeze to keep us a little bit cool. 
       Erik may or may not have flipped his kayak. He was thankful that the lake is only 3.5 feet deep even 100 meters from the shore. 
       He still had trouble getting back into his kayak. It took a couple attempts and the kayak filled with water and almost sunk! 
      I am so glad it's summer and that we get to do this a lot more often!

      Long Lost Friend

      This weekend I had a visit with a long lost friend. Pam spontaneously decided to come visit me for the weekend and it was wonderful! The weather was gorgeous and the Canucks won game 2. What more could we ask for??
      We took the kids to the big "pool" so we could go "swimming"... The freezing water never really made it past our ankles... though Lyra did sit in the water for a millisecond before a "wave" came along and she realized it wasn't the best idea.
      It was so good to see Pam! It has been far too long (about three years). It was fun to catch up and to see her in her role as a mom. It wasn't even strange to see her with kids of her own... she's an awesome mom and she clearly enjoys it! And her kids clearly adore her.
      The water was seriously freezing! Just having my feet in was more than enough to cool me down. Lyra kept us entertained with her many silly faces. She is quite the little character.  Look at her below on the horse at the playground... too funny! She went wild!
      I was so excited when Pam asked if she could come for a quick visit! I can't think of a better way to spend the weekend. Three years is far too long. I'm so glad we're in our new place too because it is much more conducive to having friends over... and it's just way nicer. Thanks for coming Pam and you are always welcome.

      And that goes for all of you. Come for a visit!!! You are always welcome.

      Monday, June 06, 2011

      Music Monday

      I forgot to answer my question the other week. I awarded 66 points because there have been 66 monarchs since England had Monarchs. Since no one guessed at the number 66 I will be keeping the points myself and I will be donating them to a charity of my choice. For your information I chose "The committee for the liberation and integration of terrifying organisms and their rehabilitation into society."

      For those of you who instantly laughed at my choice of charitable organizations because you get the reference you just won 60 times 6 points to donate to your choice of fictional charities.

      Its getting hot in Kelowna.  I think that our lovely little house will be roasting hot in another couple weeks. Good thing I will be in Alaska freezing in the Bering wind. I leave next week. There may not be music Mondays for a while, or maybe I'll find a way to get them done even though I'm gone...

      Its been 28 degrees here for the past week. That's warm. Growing up in Washington State that temperature was only achieved in the middle of summer. To anyone who thinks in Fahrenheit (28cx2)+30 = 86f. That is roughly it. The true amount is 82.4 degrees Fahrenheit. That's hot.

      You know what else is hot? Fire. This is Fire of Birds by DM Stith.



      DM Stith is part of Sufjan Stevens' ensemble of musicians. He is quite unique in his music which I find refreshing. This song took me a couple of times to listen to before I realized that I liked it. Actually it wasn't until I found myself walking home from work and semi dancing down the street to the chorus that I realized I liked it.

      Big week this week, Ashley will probably tell you all about it.

      Hold on to your butts,

      E
        D
          O

      Friday, June 03, 2011

      {this moment}

      {this moment} - A Friday Ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember. 

      Wishing you a lovely weekend!

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      Wednesday, June 01, 2011

      This is it.

      What could three brand new, freshly sharpened pencils and a never-been-used eraser mean?
      It's time to write my Canadian Registered Nurse Exam. I am hoping this morning is anti-climactic and that I walk out confident I passed. After almost failing two practice exams yesterday afternoon, I'm not so sure! But hey, I only almost failed. That means I passed. And in an exam that is pass/fail, passing is all that matters.

      This is it.